Death of a friend hits harder than we think

Lack of recognition about the period of time it takes for people to mourn a close friend’s death is leading to inadequate support being made available during the grieving process, recent findings suggest.

Trauma caused by the death of a close friend endures four times longer than previously believed, according to new research from The Australian National University (ANU).

The study, published in the Journal PLOS ONE, shows the death of a close friend will significantly affect a person’s physical, psychological and social well-being up to at least four years.

The study analysed longitudinal data and indicators of health from the Household, Income and Labour Dynamics in Australia Survey of 26,515 Australians, of whom 9,586 had experienced the death of at least one close friend.

Lead author Wai-Man (Raymond) Liu said the study found that people grieving a close friend suffered a significant decline in physical and mental health, emotional stability, and social life.

According to the researchers, these findings raise serious concerns with the way health care providers manage the recovery for people dealing with the loss of a close friend.

“We found there are serious declines in the health and well-being of people who had experienced the death of a close friend any time in the last four years. We all know that when someone loses a partner, parent or child, that person is likely to suffer through a significant grieving period. Yet the death of a close friend, which most of us will experience, is not afforded the same level of seriousness by employers, doctors, and the community,” Lui asserted.

The death of a friend is a form of disenfranchised grief - one not taken so seriously or afforded such significance. This is leaving people without the support and services they need during a very traumatic period of their lives.

Liu has called on medical practitioners and policymakers to rethink the way they approach dealing with people’s grief after the loss of a friend.

“We need to recognise the death of a close friend takes a serious toll, and to offer health and psychological services to assist these people over an adequate period of time,” Lui said.

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